Surprise is Critical

“What kind of Love is writing my story till the end with Mercy’s pen? Only You.”  Natalie Grant, Alive

A guest to the blog: Live Write Thrive, Nina Schuyler, states: “Research shows when someone is surprised, dopamine increases and emotions intensify up to 400 percent. Heightened attention ensues, and so does extreme curiosity, in an attempt to figure out what is happening during the surprise. Surprise also causes a shift – it forces a change in perspective. Your reader is hyper alert, curious, in the moment, a perfect state to tell the unexpected emotion and have the reader feel it.”

As I read this, suddenly, a surprise – God does this with us, as He continues to write our story!

We call it a Revelation or Epiphany!

“We live our lives as a tale that is told” Ps 90:9b

In the process of our life, God is writing new things into our life daily.  He tucks in the A-HA truth revealed, the hit-the-breaks WOW seconds, the surprises of life – where we stop… suspended in a moment…, but completely alert, curious, surprised, emotions intensified… just a split-second of time and our (possibly lifelong) perspective shifts. Now we see – what we couldn’t/didn’t see before.

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You Sank My Battleship – Calendar Version

In this game, your opponent strategically picks spots where they believe you have placed your battleships. Each correct guess lands a bomb on the battleship. The goal – to destroy all of the ships in your fleet.


Occasionally and undoubtedly, at some point there are days when every person we know will pick the exact same day to invite us to something. These days typically also include other things like doctors’ appointments, work appointments, car appointments, etc.. We have all been there, right?!

I think of it as “You Sank My Battleship”. When your schedule gets “bombed” at the exact same spot/same day, it is a prime setup to run you ragged, splinter time with your spouse and kids, and land bombs on your emotions of regret, feelings of defeat and inadequacy, and even fear.

However, unlike the game where you cannot move your fleet, in life you can reposition yourself. This sounds easy, right?! So, why are so many people stuck; having a hard time with this?

For me, the reason was the Fear of Rejection. (People pleasing being associated/included with that fear.) The fear of people being mad at me, the fear they will not understand, and the compulsion to keep everyone happy so I just over-extend myself to the max. Been there, done that, got the T-shirt.

Epiphany moment last week, one truth hit me – my love and acceptance in Jesus is solid, because the Cross cannot change! His love and acceptance of you was part of Jesus going toward the Cross. He didn’t die for a person He was wishy-washy about loving and accepting. Right? His Love and Acceptance of YOU was firm in His heart and mind as He walked to the fate of the Cross, was nailed on it, and died on it. The Cross is firm ground to stand-on for those of us who are shaky in feeling loved and accepted.

There is no doubt in Him, about YOU! The only doubts in play are ours, but we can cast that down and take up this truth. So that, at the root of the fear we will be rejected, not loved, not wanted, left behind, we can confidently stand at that place of ultimate love and acceptance in Jesus.

When the bombs hit your schedule – you are loved and accepted – even in not being able “to do everything”. The Cross took away that “hook” we put ourselves on. Choose loved ones first, spread-out the other appointments (take a deep breath at the space this leaves), and walk secure in your infinite worth to God.